At this point, I was wondering, how they would manage to fit a birth in? It's not like taking a number for the doctor at a walk in clinic. My feelings were a little shaken, as in some way, I was hoping to go home to allow Cathy more time to go into natural labour. However, I gained some peace at the comment from the Community Birth Program midwife "no matter what, you will have a new baby tonight!"
I remember in the waiting area praying a lot! There was a lot going on around us, and it was hard not to listen in to everything outside our own curtain. All the time we prayed and hoped that the contractions that Cathy was having would be 'real'.
It was such a strange feeling to see, as Cathy was hooked up to the monitor in the room, that there were indeed regular contractions coming. I'm a big monitor and analysis kind of guy, so I enjoyed doing the stats of how often and how strong etc.
It seems that 'walking the halls' has become a normal part of our birth story. It was a good time to see the contractions develop. Again, I had my app out and timing everything. Cathy was still very unsure whether the contractions were real, and she didn't seem to feel much of a change in each contraction. However, it was very clear to me and the Doula that over the time we spent in the halls, Cathy was less talkative and more concentrated with each subsequent contraction. These were certainly the real ones!
Back into the room and time for a check. Wonder how much work the contractions have done? The answer, 3cm. So there has been some good movement, but there is still a long way to go. We decided to stay in the room, as the contractions were now getting stronger.
One of the most awkward parts of any birth! The time as 'father to be' where you feel a bit like a spare part. She's up, she's down, she's standing, she's laying. She needs holding, she needs a drink. All whilst going through some solid amount of pain. Really, what I should be saying is "sorry". For a while I'd been wondering if we were going to avoid the vomiting this time round... nope! and when it arrived it arrived with a vengeance.
having many. Frustrating.
Only 4cm! And Cathy seems like she is getting tired. It feels like we've been counting contractions for hours. It's surprising how fast time goes when it's the early hours of the morning. They don't seem to think that she is having enough contractions to do anything, but my counting says she is. They decide to put her on a drip so she can get some saline solution, as she is tired after many hours of contractions and vomiting. Back on the monitors, as they think they might start Oxy soon. Cathy works hard to detach from the pain, but needs to be on the bed now.
So, the green light was given for Oxy, and I see them setting everything up. I try to spend some time with Cathy. I'm super tired, but how can I really complain. However, I was rather oblivious to what was going on around me. I thought they had administered the Oxy. Cathy needed to turn, and suddenly her contractions come on like crazy. I said 'that worked fast', as she starts saying that the baby is coming. The people around me say 'what worked fast?'. They hadn't even given the Oxy, as there wasn't the time. Well, the last bit has gone like a rocket... again!
"Ok, Simon. Let's put your gloves on" comes the words from the Midwife. I gladly start, but then she say's "if there's time". The baby was on exit, route 1! Well, I got in position, and then thought, now what? It was like the midwifes were saying, "go on then, deliver it". People might say I looked like a dear in the headlights, but its not like I deliver a baby every other week. I did what I could, which wasn't much incidentally, but I manged to hold the head and then semi lift the baby up to Cathy. And of course, on lifting one leg, was able to announce that we indeed had another girl!
[ ] Baby's eye gel ok
[ ] Shot on my thigh ok
[ ] Vitamin k shot is ok
[ ] Keep placenta in a cooler/fridge for picking up - I'm having it encapsulated
[ ] Wait until cord stops pulsing before clamping /cutting
[ ] No pulling on the umbilical cord unless heavy bleeding
[ ] No separation for the first hour unless ABSOLUTELY necessary
[ ] Instant skin to skin contact
[ ] I want my husband to deliver the baby and lift him/her onto my chest
[ ] No rupturing of the membranes
[ ] Respect our faith: songs, prayer and Bible reading
[ ] No pain medications
[ ] Joc Widjaya as my doula
[ ] Plenty of ice, fan, cool cloths